Friday, September 26, 2008

How To Be A Good Kisser - In 3 Simple Steps


How To Be A Good Kisser

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Kissing is a very personal emotion and is generally used to show your love or care for someone. Kissing has a big role to play when it comes to dating and being impressive. So how to be a good kisser? Do you know that kissing is such a crucial part of your life that you can be rejected or accepted just based on the way you kiss someone? Kissing someone is one thing and being good at it is another. Every person wants a partner who is a good kisser and knows the true art of kissing. Read on to discover some of the best ways on how to be a good kisser and achieve mind blowing results.

Is the moment right? - In order to be a good kisser you should know when the perfect moment to kiss your partner is. Timing has a very vital role to play when it comes to being a good kisser and achieving the desired results. Make sure your partner is looking and expecting a kiss as well and you have your timings perfect in order to become a good kisser.

Add variation to it- Some people simply do not know how to kiss and the best way they find this out is when their partner whom they are kissing tends to push them away. Remember while you are kissing you need to add variation to it. You simply can't be in the same position all throughout. You can add a combination of various things such as adding some tongue action, changing face positions, your rhythm etc in order to be a good kisser and get the best out of the situation.

Never ask your partner- Some people tend to ask their partners whether they were good or not. Never ever ask your partner whether you are a good kisser or not. If your partner enjoyed your kiss than he or she would be willing to do it again or maybe he or she would tell you instantly after you are done with the kiss. Asking your partner is not only cheap but might spoil your chances as well of any future dates. Remember being a good kisser is all in your mind. If you think you are a good kisser than you are and if you think you are not a good kisser than you aren't.

What you don't know yet- Ever tried to wonder what's in a woman's mind? What is she thinking about? Do you know that women do not always mean what they say? They might say something and mean the exact opposite. But what do women actually want? Do you know there are some secrets women don't want men to know but men absolutely must know these secrets in order to succeed with women? Read on to discover some of the most "Shocking Secrets" women don't want men to know.

"A kiss can destroy a philosophy."
"A kiss can destroy a philosophy."

It is said that just after one kiss, a woman comes to know whether you are the one she can spend her entire life with, or not. I’m sure that this one liner must have stressed the importance of kissing, for all you guys out there. In fact, being a good kisser is one of the essential requirements of having good physical relations between the partners. A kiss might mean anything, right from emotional affection to passionate desire. What you are able to convey to the other partner will depend upon the way you kiss him/her.
Kissing Tips & Techniques
  • First things first! Make sure that your physical appearance is attractive. Otherwise, the other person will not even feel like kissing.
  • Kissing means using lips. Make sure you lips are soft and supple and for that, start using lip balm on a daily basis. However, don’t use a balm or a gloss just before kissing; it will be a major turn-off.
  • Nobody wants to kiss garlic or onion or say, smoke. Do not kiss if you have just had smelly things for lunch or smoked cigarettes. At the same time, always keep mints with you, for that perfect fresh breath.
  • In the initial seconds, go easy. Give the other person time to feel completely at ease. You don’t want to scare your partner.
  • Always try different types of kisses. French kiss is not the only kiss in the world.
  • Don’t become so lost in the kiss, so as to completely forget the other person. Be attentive to his/her non-verbal responses.
  • Lastly, be confident. Getting nervous while kissing is sure to make the beautiful sensations end up in a mess. Just go with the flow.
Different Kiss Types
Many people believe that there are only two types of kisses - check kiss and French kiss. However, the realm of kiss is very vast. To know more, read on!
  • In the Butterfly Kiss, you bring your face very close to that of your partner and then, flutter your eyelashes rapidly.
  • Cheek Kiss, as we all know, is one of the friendly kisses. It is usually adopted on the first date. You need to gently brush you lips across your partner’s cheek.
  • Earlobe Kiss involves sipping and sucking the earlobe of the partner. Since you are so close to the ear, do not make too loud noises.
  • In the Eskimo Kiss, you gently rub your nose with that of your partner.
  • Eye Kiss, as the name suggests, implies giving a tender kiss on the closed eyes of the partner.
  • You can do the Finger Kiss, while relaxing with your partner. Take his/her fingers and gently suck on them.
  • Considered an erotic kiss, Foot Kiss involves gently sucking the toes and then, kissing the foot very lightly.
  • Forehead Kiss is meant to be the friendliest kiss. You simply brush your lips across your partner’s forehead.
  • Freeze Kiss, also known as Melt Kiss, is the one in which you put an ice cube into your mouth and kiss your partner, while passing the cube to his/her mouth with your tongue.
  • French Kiss is the most sensual kiss amongst all. At times called the Soul Kiss, it involves the tongue along with the lips.
  • While doing the Fruity Kiss, you put a piece of a juicy fruit between your lips. While kissing you nibble a part of the fruit, while he nibbles the other.
  • In Hand Kiss, you raise your partner’s hand to your lips and brush them lightly across the tip of the hand.
  • Hot and Cold Kiss involves first licking your partners lips to make them warm and then, blowing on them to make them cold. Keep alternating.
  • Lick Kiss is gently running your tongue over your partner’s lips, just before kissing.
  • Lip Sucking Kiss means that you suck on the lower lip of the partner while kissing.
  • For Neck Nibble Kiss, start with nibbling you way up and down your partner’s neck. Finally, place a gentle kiss on his/her lips.
  • Nip Kiss will require you to slightly nibble on your partner’s lips, while kissing. Make sure you do not end up biting him/her.
  • While doing the Shoulder Kiss, come from behind your partner, give a slight hug and then, kiss the top of his/her shoulder.
  • You can do the Sip Kiss while drinking something sweet. Take a sip of the drink, leaving a little of it on your lips, and gently kiss your partner.
  • In Trickle Kiss, you take a sip of your favorite drink and then, trickle it into your partner’s mouth while kissing.
  • Wake Up Kiss is more about time than technique. Just before your partner is about to wake up, kiss him/her - starting with the cheeks and ending at the lips. Then, softly say - Good Morning!

In the movie "Hitch", Will Smith's character, Alex ‘Hitch' Hitchens, is a date doctor who counsels Albert, played by Kevin James, on how to get the girl of his dreams to notice him. Once that's over, he coaches Albert on how to behave during their first date. One of the topics he covers is how to go about getting a great first kiss. Hitch employs the 90/10 technique. If they've had a pleasant evening and Allegra is hesitating at the door before going inside after Albert has walked her home, then he should gently lean in for a kiss by going 90% of the way, allowing her to go the remaining 10% if she's interested. Luckily for Albert, the method works, and he and Allegra end the movie happily married.

A first kiss is very important. It sets the precedent for all kisses to follow, and can be a huge determining factor as to whether or not you'll want to see the person again. My very first kiss was in ninth grade to a guy whose name I can't remember because after that one instance I only referred to him in my head as Lizard Tongue.

Let that be lesson number one: easy on the freaking tongue. At the very beginning of a first kiss, try to refrain from shoving your tongue down her throat. All you need to start with is a gentle, relaxed mouth that is slightly open to let her know that you're interested in kissing with tongue further down the line if she's interested, too. Holding her hand to bring her in for a kiss is nice move, it suggests interest without being invasive.

Lesson number two: You will know within ½ a second whether or not she's into the kiss. If she meets your slightly open mouth with cold, pursed lips, or giggles and pats your arm in a "There, there, that's enough now" sort of way, it's best to retreat. You took a shot, you went for it, good for you, now back it up.

Lesson number three: A good kiss involves more than just the mouth. If she shows signs of satisfaction such as eagerly kissing you back, squeezing your hand, putting her arms around your neck, then you can proceed. Cradle the back of her head with your hand, or pull her closer to you by guiding her waist. Caress her face softly and subtly with your hands and fingertips. The kiss will progress naturally at this point; you'll be altering your moves to match her kissing style, and she'll be doing the same. Eventually, if the chemistry is right, you should end up with a comfortable kissing style all your own.

Lesson number four: When it's time for tongue (and be warned, there are some girls who don't enjoy deep, tongue kisses, it's just a personal preference) gently introduce it by circling the tip of your tongue around hers. If it feels right, then you can go a little bit deeper, swirling both your tongues together. Either way, you're not going for Dentist of the Year award here. There's no need to perform a tonsillectomy. Some people mistakenly think that deeper is better.

Lesson number five: Remember to swallow. For some reason, it seems that men produce more saliva than women. If you're in the midst of a kiss and you notice that you're drooling, something is very wrong. Swallow frequently to prevent excessive moisture. A kiss can be dry and still be sexy.

Finally, lesson number six: Don't forget the value of make-out sessions. A good, five minute kiss does not mean sex has to immediately follow, nor does it mean that it should. Relax and take things slow, enjoy each others company and take the time to learn each others bodies. Kissing can be an orgasmic experience in and of itself, and if you are eventually lucky enough to sleep with her, she'll appreciate the fact that you didn't rush into it.

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